Nine (9) things to get along well with your Partner

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A healthy marriage relationship is one that is not always easy and one which there is no dispute between partners. The closest and longest married couples are committed to solving contentions in a mature way and grow together as a human being and as a lover. Here are some things that couple marriage experts advise most often to couple to strengthen their bond .

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1. Praise your spouse in front of others
Couples who maintain healthy relationships talk positively about each other in front of friends, children, relatives, and colleagues. This is the opposite of what happens in bad relationships. ‘My husband is very good at helping me.’, ‘My wife is really good at cooking.’ It is a good way to maintain a close and intimate relationship with the same words spontaneously popping out.

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2. It takes time to be together even when it is busy.
Good couples say they regularly take time out for each other in their daily lives. Spend time with your dog, take a walk together, talk after your child is asleep, watch your favorite TV shows, or pray together.

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3. Often smile
Smile a lot with each other. One of them is acting to brighten the mood, so it’s hard to be upset for a long time. I need to talk about serious topics when I need them, but the sense of humor is tremendously helpful in maintaining a healthy relationship. People who laugh a lot and are generally not too serious can easily enjoy a healthier relationship.

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4.Appreciate each other of the positive aspect rather than continuing to talk about the negative aspects of your partner.

You could have a couple of complaints about your marriage. But in most cases people have similar problems like other couples. Good couples see the good side of the opponent rather than the complaint, and express it immediately if there is something thankful for the opponent.

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5. If there would be winners in arguments, let it be your partner.
Disagreements are normal in a relationship. Couples who always sympathize with each other and listen with each other tend to overcome common misunderstandings in all relationships. If you have these conflict management skills, you may feel that your partner is listening, understanding and appreciating when you say, “I do not agree with you, but I understand you and understand why you feel that way.”

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6. Always tell your whereabouts
Don’t let your spouse neglected. If you tell your whereabouts through a short phone call or text, or and when you have an appointment with your friends, you can improve your marital status and help your partner feel at ease.
7.Don’t fail to be romantic
It’s a way for couples to enjoy each other’s love and excitement. If you do not tempt each other, the relationship becomes plain and boring. Good couples always try to attract each other.

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8. Fight Clean During Arguments
Improve your discussion. Be careful not to blame, not to stigmatize, not to discourage. Insert a joke at a most difficult time. When the couple spoke to each other, be careful with hurting words. A good couple always loves and respects each other.

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9. Forgive and surrender without grudging
You should not have any emotional distance from each other . Be responsible for your own mistakes, apologize and cross over. Even if you disagree about something just an hour ago, enjoy your life together.

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5 Keys to Great First-Time Sex

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Put in the Time
The three-date rule is not reliable. The majority of women we polled said they typically wait eight or more dates before sleeping with a man. She’ll drop hints when she’s ready to have first-time sex with you. Your green light: When she creates total privacy for the two of you, says Darcy Luadzers, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of The Ten-Minute Sexual Solution. Has she invited you over for dinner and mentioned that her roommates are out of town? Take the hint.

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Pay Lip Service
Lots of kissing reassures her that you’re not simply out for sex, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., the author of Touch Me There! Only one in seven women would consider sleeping with you without a makeout session first, reveals a study in Evolutionary Psychology. And two-thirds of women have ended a relationship based on the first kiss, possibly because the man was a sloppy kisser. Trace her lips with your tongue, and alternate soft kisses with gentle sucking on her lips.(Of course, this lip service works elsewhere on her body, too. Follow this step-by-step guide and learn How to Kiss Her Most Sensitive Spots.)

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Descend Slowly
Spend at least 15 minutes kissing and caressing before moving below. Many women take about 8 minutes to become aroused before they want clitoral stimulation, “so double that and you should have her at the brink,” says Luadzers. Trace your hand along the outside of her hips, slowly working your way between her legs.

Use Your Head
If you’re receiving encouragement, kiss your way down. Fifty-two percent of women in our poll said they want you to spend at least 15 minutes south of the border. Using your tongue, make your first full stroke from her perineum to her inner labia, and then barely touch her clitoris. Stop. Let her breathe while you kiss her inner thighs. Repeat. (See What Real Women Want when it comes to receiving oral sex.)

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In our exclusive poll, a plurality of women (38 percent) said 10 to 20 minutes of intercourse is all they desire. Keep your Kama Sutra on the shelf: Sixty-six percent want to keep the positioning fairly tame at first. Have her lie back with her knees slightly bent, and place pillows under her hips, torso, and head. That’ll allow you to kneel between her legs and enter her as you simultaneously stroke her clitoris with your hand, says Patti Taylor, Ph.D., the host of the podcast Expanded Lovemaking. (As you get to know each other better, consider the 45 Best Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try.)

Upgrade Your Endgame
Your postcoital plan should reassure her that you’re not just out for a one-night stand. Start with the obvious: cuddling. Fifty-six percent of women want about 20 minutes of closeness. It doesn’t take much. “Even just taking her hand or laying your arm over her stomach is enough to make the point,” Gardos says. And don’t forget the follow-up: Fifty-nine percent want a phone call the next day, not a less-personal e-mail or text. Give her a quick buzz after work—you won’t look overeager, but she’ll still feel wanted.

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4 Things EVERY Man Wants In A Woman, No Question About It

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Are you the girl for him?
If you want to win the right man’s heart, you need to know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you, to wanting and needing you on a deeper level. I’m going to take you inside a man’s mind you so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection. And I’m talking about a real man — one who is mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
They’re on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level. That’s exactly why you’re on this site: to learn how to find a quality kind of guy, a real man looking for a real relationship.

So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?

1. He Wants A Woman Who Is Playful.

Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action. Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a man’s heart. But men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you say.

It’s not your words that make a man attracted to you; it’s the experiences you create with him. Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong, and even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there. You’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

2. He Wants A Woman Who Is Independent.

Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they’re smarter and more powerful. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Real men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship.

A great guy isn’t intimidated by independence and success. What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him. The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world. Don’t drop your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him.

3. He Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature.

A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her, will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman.

If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him. On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she’s the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him. He’ll see that she can handle things with a cool head rather than become a damsel in distress he has to rescue.

4. He Wants A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To.

Men aren’t as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there’s no passion and attraction. A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.
Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start. There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun. You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable (in a good way).

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Most Incredible Mothers

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It’s Mother’s day again..Let’s salute some incredible ones recorded.

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1.The Mom with Most Kids (69 kids)

Imagine living in a family of 71, your mom either must really like giving birth or the gift of life if you prefer or just hates being lonely. Valentina Vassilyeva, set the record for most children birthed by a single woman. This Russian woman gave birth to total of 69 children. However, few other details are known of her life, such as her date of birth or death. She gave birth to 16 pairs of twins, 7 sets of triplets and 4 sets of quadruplets between 1725 and 1765, in a total of 27 births.

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2. Nadya Denise Doud-Suleman Gutierrez aka Octomom gave birth to 8 children from a single birth. She gave birth to octuplets in January 2009, drawing the media attention.

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3. Cristianne Ray, from Seattle, is the world’s smallest mother. She is 2 ft 9 inches tall and she gave birth to a happy baby girl named Kyrsten. She weighed 4 lbs 8 oz and was 14 inches long after she was born; what is around half of her mother’s height. When she saw her daughter for the first time, she said: “She was tiny, but at the same time she was huge compared to me.” She tries to lead a happy and healthy life; she goes bowling trying to keep fit and takes care of her newborn baby. Her fiancée Jeremy Bowden is 6 ft 4 inches.

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4. World’s First Male Mother: Thomas Beatie was born as a woman but after a sex change operation he/she decided to have a babie. The 34-year-old’s wife, Nancy, was unable to conceive because of a prior hysterectomy. Therefore Beatie decided to have a baby himself, through artificial insemination using donor sperm and Beatie’s own egg. It doesn’t seem to be a healthy solution in any respect.

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5. Mom with the longest interval between kids: Elizabeth Ann Buttle gave birth to two kids, but what is special is the interval between their births. Belinda Buttle was born on May 19, 1956 when Elizabeth Ann Buttle was 19. Joseph Buttle was born on November 20, 1997 when Elizabeth Ann Buttle was 60, an interval of 41 years 185 days. Joseph’ sister was old enough to be his own grandmother.

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Why A Great Marriage Demands Great Sex

One of the most frequent client complaints I get is about a sexless marriage. While sometimes, in case of illness or injury, a complete sexual experience is not possible in a partnership, it is always best to engage in whatever level sexual activity is available to the couple. Marriage without sex is vulnerable to temptation.

Don’t kid yourselves that you can be just best friends and have a lasting marriage. Sooner or later, temptation will arise, either from a partner’s co-worker, another member of the church choir, (this happens a surprising amount) or a neighbor. The drive to have sex is powerful, and it will be satisfied, one way or another. Don’t you want to satisfy your needs with your partner?

Keeping love and sex alive in your relationship is what keeps it active and healthy. A good sex life is like the roots that anchor a tree. To keep that vital energy going (and the sap rising!), you need to continually provide something new and interesting. Seduction can be as simple as causing your partner to ask what you’ve been doing that has you so energized and interested. When you’re enthusiastic, you’re seductive and at your most attractive.

Relationships continue to develop in stages, even after the honeymoon is over.In the development of intimacy, love matures and becomes reality-based. It’s the time where the magic fades; both of you begin to relax and show your innermost, less perfect selves. You’re beginning to get to know each other, warts and all. You may feel vulnerable and awkward. In this stage, you may argue, struggle for power, become irritable and unreasonable. The fear that your lover will not like this more realistic view of you arises. As a result, both partners need and have trouble providing reassurance and personal space. Many relationships don’t make it through this stage, because if the partners don’t understand or expect this change, it can feel like something is terribly wrong.

Here are four simple steps to create a successful marriage – complete with lots of intimacy:

1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, sex, anger, disappointment, your appreciation of each other, the meaning of life… talk about everything.
2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up. Be a team and a partnership. Don’t get stuck on who’s right or wrong. Focus on what will solve the problem.
3. Keep your connection going through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for each other.
4. Have a sense of humor, give the benefit of the doubt and care about each other.

When your relationship lasts for a while, your lovemaking will change. As you get closer, passion no longer grows automatically out of the excitement of the new and unknown. Rather than allowing your energy to subside, you can allow your sex lives to change and grow, deepening as your partnership does. Couples who develop a sexual repertoire which includes a variety of habits, attitudes and options report feeling more satisfaction and freedom to express their love with enough variety that they never get bored. These suggestions will help you create a variety of experiences together.

 

Quickies:
These are ways to enjoy sex when you don’t really have time for a full, leisurely romantic evening: Try oral sex before you leave for work, petting to climax in the car at a drive-in movie, using toys to have orgasms without a lot of foreplay late at night, or taking a nap and having a “quickie” before rushing off to a party.

Sneaky Sex:
This has the added excitement of forbidden fruit: having silent sex behind locked doors while the children are watching TV or sneaking lovemaking in your childhood bedroom while visiting your parents.

Romantic Sex:
This is the full-blown variety: candlelight, dinner, quiet talking, dressing up, perhaps a lovely hotel room or a romantic dinner for two when you have time alone at home. This is especially good for anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, or anytime your relationship needs a boost.

New Couple Sex:
Recreate a scene from your dating days, as closely as possible: the time you met at church and couldn’t wait to get home and make love, the flowers you used to bring home as a surprise, or saying all the silly, wildly-in-love things you would whisper “way back then.”

Make-up Sex:
After you’ve had an argument or a struggle and forgiven each other, lovemaking can be extra tender and memorable.

Comforting Sex:
When one of you is sad or stressed, and the other acts in a way that is caring and soothing, sex can feel comforting and safe. This is a celebration of your long-time bond and how hard you’ve worked to maintain it.

Relaxing Sex:
This is a great activity for a weekend morning when you have no obligations and can laze around, have breakfast in bed, and make love for as long as you want. There’s no pressure, no hurry and no demands on each other.

Reassuring Sex:
This is manifested in affection and intimacy intended to reassure a partner who is temporarily insecure, or designed to reaffirm your mutual love and commitment to each other. It is often accompanied by many verbal declarations of love and explaining again why you are so important to each other.

Fantasy Sex:
Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies you’ve been harboring: nurse and patient, “playing house,” master or dominatrix and slave, stripper and customer, extraterrestrial alien and abductee, famous movie star and adoring fan, your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie… or anything else you can imagine. This is a great time for costumes, masks, toys, outfits, or whatever enhancements you enjoy.

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Health benefits of kissing

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Ah, the kiss. It can be so many things: sweet, loving, awkward, intense, transporting, disappointing, boring, sublime, life altering.

On the delicious and passionate side of the spectrum, a smooch can be a heart-healthy micro workout, a hormone releaser and a mood booster. It’s also fun — and a great way to connect with the person you care about.

“Sex, as wonderful as it is, can be perfunctory,” says Andréa Demirjian, author of “Kissing: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about One of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures.”

“Kissing is intimate: You’re right there in the space of your soul. It gets to the core of your heart and spirit because it’s such a lovely way to express and receive love and affection. A kiss a day really can keep the doctor away.”

1. Kissing helps reduce blood pressure

Making out isn’t just good for your emotional heart, it gives your anatomical one a workout, too. “Kissing passionately gets your heartbeat revved in a healthy way that helps lower your blood pressure,” says Demirjian. “It dilates your blood vessels — blood is flowing in a good, solid fashion and getting to all your vital organs.”

2. Kissing zaps cramps and headaches

“Kissing is great if you have a headache or menstrual cramps,” says Demirjian. You may be inclined to wave away advances when you’re curled into an achy ball, but the blood-vessel dilation brought on by a good long smooching session can really help ease your pain. In fact, Demirjian recommends replacing the ol’ “Not tonight, dear — I have a headache” line with, “Honey, I have a headache. Come kiss me!”

3. Kissing fights cavities

A smooch-a-thon gets all, er, fluids flowing — including your saliva. “When you’re kissing, you’re secreting more saliva in your mouth,” says Demirjian. “That’s the mechanism that washes away the plaque on your teeth that leads to cavities.” (So much more fun than gargling!)

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4. Kissing amps up your happy hormones

“If you’re feeling stressed or rundown, a little kissing or lovemaking [is] actually the elixir you need to… feel better,” says Demirjian. “It will relax, restore and revitalize you…. The feel-good chemicals in the brain get percolating: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin — things you can get from the rush of exercising.”

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5. Kissing burns (a few) calories

It can’t compare to 30 minutes on the elliptical, but a vigorous makeout session can burn 8 to 16 calories per smooch, says Demirjian. “Kissing and lovemaking can be a vigorous exercise if you’re fully engaged,” she says. “You need to have a passionate kiss [in order to burn those calories], but it doesn’t have to be a 10-hour makeout session.”

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One German study found that men who got a nice juicy kiss from their wives before leaving for work made more money. “If he leaves his home happy, he’s more productive at work because he’s not feeling emotionally distressed, so he’s going to make more money,” explains Demirjian. “Kissing has so much to do with your self-esteem and feeling loved and connected.”

7. Kissing can give you a facelift (kind of)

Per Demirjian, deep kissing can shape up the neck and jawline, which are often trouble spots for those concerned about looking older. “Your mouth has a number of facial muscles,” she says. “When those are engaged in kissing, you can tighten and tone them.”

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8. Kissing is a barometer for sexual compatibility

It can be an excellent way to check out a potential partner for sexual compatibility before getting naked and emotionally involved, says Demirjian. But if your very first liplock with a new partner is meh, she recommends giving him or her one more shot.

“Sometimes during the first kiss, people are feeling awkward, nervous or embarrassed,” she says. “That might not breed the most seductive, sexy experience.” Second kiss is crappy, too? That’s your cue to take your lips — and the rest of you — elsewhere.

Girl Talk, Then And Now

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As the topography of our lives has changed, so too have our conversations. The subjects that held us transfixed in our 20s are not even on our radar anymore. We still have plenty to say, but the topics have changed. For example:

Then: Cosmetics
Back in the day, we could talk about mascara and nail polish until the cows came home.

Now: Cosmetic Dermatology
Nowadays, we’ve upgraded to microdermabrasion and amazing spa facials, and our skin looks better now than it ever did!

Born in the ’70s? You’re probably in the messy middle.
Then: Body Image
One upon a time, we boosted each other’s self-esteem with the magic words “Those jeans make your butt look amazing!”

Now: Body Function
These days we’re using our bodies to do some kick-ass stuff. I ran a half-marathon and my friend started taking martial arts again.

Then: Shoes
We didn’t have Carrie Bradshaw’s budget, but we did have her taste.

Now: Boots
Times have changed and so has fashion. Goodbye strappy sandals, hello tall boots! Ooh, and Uggs for winter. And adorable wellies for walking to school on rainy days. And…

Then: Shopping for Cute Clothes
Payday used to mean running out to pick out a great new outfit for the weekend.

Now: Shopping for Cute Clothes for Our Kids
Payday means running out to buy jeans because our kids grew an inch overnight and all their pants are floods. Seriously, why do kids grow so fast? But while we’re shopping for them, let’s go look at some boots.

Then: Bragging About Sex
Think only guys talk about conquests? Ha. Notches in the old lipstick case, baby.

Now: Bragging About Sexy Weekends Away
Anniversary getaway? Birthday overnight at a fancy hotel with the husband? Yes, please!

Then: Happy Hour
Dollar PBR night? Holla!

Now: Wine Tasting
Touring a winery and learning how to pair wine with food? I’m so in!

Then: Dates
“Oooooo! I’m going out with a boy on Friday! He’s soooo cute! And he likes my favorite band!”

Now: Date Nights
“Oooooo! I found a sitter for Friday! She’s soooo great! And she does the dishes after the kids are in bed!”

Then: Roommates
The guy who had loud sex in the mornings, the substitute teacher who got daily robo-calls at 6 a.m., the gay guy who loved to watch Golden Girls reruns with us. Our roommates were a rotating cast of characters that helped us afford our apartments.

Now: Renovations
Picking backsplashes is better than vetting potential housemates any day!

Then: Push-Up Bras
It used to be lingerie was a fashion statement, the base layer of an awesome outfit. Bras put our boobs on display in the best way possible.

Now: Push-Up Bras
Let’s face it, some things never change. Hot lingerie is still hot.
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The good news is, we find boots and travel plans just as hilarious and awesome as we found sex and shopping when we were younger. I just hope in 20 more years, we’ll still be laughing as hard as we have the past 20.