Nine (9) things to get along well with your Partner

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A healthy marriage relationship is one that is not always easy and one which there is no dispute between partners. The closest and longest married couples are committed to solving contentions in a mature way and grow together as a human being and as a lover. Here are some things that couple marriage experts advise most often to couple to strengthen their bond .

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1. Praise your spouse in front of others
Couples who maintain healthy relationships talk positively about each other in front of friends, children, relatives, and colleagues. This is the opposite of what happens in bad relationships. ‘My husband is very good at helping me.’, ‘My wife is really good at cooking.’ It is a good way to maintain a close and intimate relationship with the same words spontaneously popping out.

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2. It takes time to be together even when it is busy.
Good couples say they regularly take time out for each other in their daily lives. Spend time with your dog, take a walk together, talk after your child is asleep, watch your favorite TV shows, or pray together.

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3. Often smile
Smile a lot with each other. One of them is acting to brighten the mood, so it’s hard to be upset for a long time. I need to talk about serious topics when I need them, but the sense of humor is tremendously helpful in maintaining a healthy relationship. People who laugh a lot and are generally not too serious can easily enjoy a healthier relationship.

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4.Appreciate each other of the positive aspect rather than continuing to talk about the negative aspects of your partner.

You could have a couple of complaints about your marriage. But in most cases people have similar problems like other couples. Good couples see the good side of the opponent rather than the complaint, and express it immediately if there is something thankful for the opponent.

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5. If there would be winners in arguments, let it be your partner.
Disagreements are normal in a relationship. Couples who always sympathize with each other and listen with each other tend to overcome common misunderstandings in all relationships. If you have these conflict management skills, you may feel that your partner is listening, understanding and appreciating when you say, “I do not agree with you, but I understand you and understand why you feel that way.”

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6. Always tell your whereabouts
Don’t let your spouse neglected. If you tell your whereabouts through a short phone call or text, or and when you have an appointment with your friends, you can improve your marital status and help your partner feel at ease.
7.Don’t fail to be romantic
It’s a way for couples to enjoy each other’s love and excitement. If you do not tempt each other, the relationship becomes plain and boring. Good couples always try to attract each other.

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8. Fight Clean During Arguments
Improve your discussion. Be careful not to blame, not to stigmatize, not to discourage. Insert a joke at a most difficult time. When the couple spoke to each other, be careful with hurting words. A good couple always loves and respects each other.

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9. Forgive and surrender without grudging
You should not have any emotional distance from each other . Be responsible for your own mistakes, apologize and cross over. Even if you disagree about something just an hour ago, enjoy your life together.

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5 Keys to Great First-Time Sex

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Put in the Time
The three-date rule is not reliable. The majority of women we polled said they typically wait eight or more dates before sleeping with a man. She’ll drop hints when she’s ready to have first-time sex with you. Your green light: When she creates total privacy for the two of you, says Darcy Luadzers, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of The Ten-Minute Sexual Solution. Has she invited you over for dinner and mentioned that her roommates are out of town? Take the hint.

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Pay Lip Service
Lots of kissing reassures her that you’re not simply out for sex, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., the author of Touch Me There! Only one in seven women would consider sleeping with you without a makeout session first, reveals a study in Evolutionary Psychology. And two-thirds of women have ended a relationship based on the first kiss, possibly because the man was a sloppy kisser. Trace her lips with your tongue, and alternate soft kisses with gentle sucking on her lips.(Of course, this lip service works elsewhere on her body, too. Follow this step-by-step guide and learn How to Kiss Her Most Sensitive Spots.)

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Descend Slowly
Spend at least 15 minutes kissing and caressing before moving below. Many women take about 8 minutes to become aroused before they want clitoral stimulation, “so double that and you should have her at the brink,” says Luadzers. Trace your hand along the outside of her hips, slowly working your way between her legs.

Use Your Head
If you’re receiving encouragement, kiss your way down. Fifty-two percent of women in our poll said they want you to spend at least 15 minutes south of the border. Using your tongue, make your first full stroke from her perineum to her inner labia, and then barely touch her clitoris. Stop. Let her breathe while you kiss her inner thighs. Repeat. (See What Real Women Want when it comes to receiving oral sex.)

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In our exclusive poll, a plurality of women (38 percent) said 10 to 20 minutes of intercourse is all they desire. Keep your Kama Sutra on the shelf: Sixty-six percent want to keep the positioning fairly tame at first. Have her lie back with her knees slightly bent, and place pillows under her hips, torso, and head. That’ll allow you to kneel between her legs and enter her as you simultaneously stroke her clitoris with your hand, says Patti Taylor, Ph.D., the host of the podcast Expanded Lovemaking. (As you get to know each other better, consider the 45 Best Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try.)

Upgrade Your Endgame
Your postcoital plan should reassure her that you’re not just out for a one-night stand. Start with the obvious: cuddling. Fifty-six percent of women want about 20 minutes of closeness. It doesn’t take much. “Even just taking her hand or laying your arm over her stomach is enough to make the point,” Gardos says. And don’t forget the follow-up: Fifty-nine percent want a phone call the next day, not a less-personal e-mail or text. Give her a quick buzz after work—you won’t look overeager, but she’ll still feel wanted.

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Married To A Stranger

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When ever I would come across the famous quote Marriages Are Made In Heaven And Celebrated on Earth, I would think to myself what does that even means until I got married to a stranger who now is my best friend.

Friends and followers keep asking me If I have adjusted to the change, how my married life is coming along. If coping with an arrange marriage is difficult and how long it took me to settle down. Well, Marriage is not about a perfect couple living together its when an imperfect couple enjoy their differences. Giving up and leaving is the easiest way out but fighting and standing strong is the key to a successful marriage.

It has not been long that I got married and I follow NO rules but I have highlighted a few tips.

Be Friends: After knowing you have to spend the rest of your life with your partner, Become friends first. Don’t push too hard and take it slow. Make jokes, gossip and understand each other and stay focused when spending time together.
Keep No Secrets: Don’t take anyone’s advice when told to keep things from your partner. After you have become friends and you’ve built understanding start with sharing small secrets. Enjoy having a soul mate and partner on your side.

Don’t Get Angry At The Same Time: There are agreements and disagreements in every relationship especially when you are living with someone so close. If you don’t like what your partner is suggesting or you disagree to the idea or you are in a fight, Keep your sanity. Stay calm and give each other some time. Once the situation is cooled down explain your point of view.
Give Space: Remember! before you started sharing his room he had a life of his own and you had yours. Give each other some room and space. Let him have some time while you can make him a meal that you can share together.

Never Spy Or Doubt: If you think something is fishy and unusual or If u hear a part of some conversation don’t go on a secret mission of spying on him or give room to doubts in your heart. Walk up to him and tell him how you feel and ask what ever is in your heart directly.
Watch A Show Together: Pick a show and watch it together with some snacks before going to bed. Make small comments in between to make it interesting.

Date Night: To keep the charm alive date your partner, Make plans ahead of time and send him a reminder message in the morning of the day you have plans for. Pick clothes for him and Let him chose for you. If you have a baby or kids take help from family or friends to watch them while you spend a couple of hours together.
Defend Your Partner: The best feeling is to have your partner on your side. Defend him even when he is wrong and don’t make him feel alone or left out. You can take him to a side and tell him about his mistakes.
Have Common Friends: I have read numerous blogs were its suggested to have different friends than your partners. But I believe in having common friends. Host Pot-lucks, Game Nights, Celebrate small occasions and have everyone over. Even when you make new friends besides your partner’s introduce their spouses to yours. This way you’ll have a bigger group of friends to have fun with.
Make Trips And Explore: Every alternate weekend pick a new place to try be it a restaurant/cafe or an activity hub. Start saving from the beginning of the year for a long trip to explore new cities or different countries. Read about their cultures and occasions before planning the trip.
Charm And Attraction: Superficial and materialistic things don’t matter in a strong relationship. Don’t try too hard to be what you’re not. Keep it original, He married you for what you are, If your partner cannot appreciate you or is not attracted to you. Forget it and Love yourself and Become your own Best friend. Self Confidence is the charm to your personality which makes it attractive.
Respect And Appreciate: No relationship can survive for long without respect or appreciation. Never make your partner feel unloved or treat him with disrespect. The best time to appreciate your partner is when with family or friends. Highlight his efforts for you. Show him off ! And thank him when alone.
Give respect all times, There is a thin line between disagreeing and being disrespectful. Art is to know which one not to cross.
Forgive, Forget And Grow: Every person stands a chance. Forgive and forget a couple of times but don’t be a fool to make it a habit. Tell him how it hurts you and affects your relationship and give each other a fair chance to grow.
SMILE: Take control and be head strong, Smile even when it hurts
I hope these pointers help you in some way. Your Feedback will be appreciated

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Why A Great Marriage Demands Great Sex

One of the most frequent client complaints I get is about a sexless marriage. While sometimes, in case of illness or injury, a complete sexual experience is not possible in a partnership, it is always best to engage in whatever level sexual activity is available to the couple. Marriage without sex is vulnerable to temptation.

Don’t kid yourselves that you can be just best friends and have a lasting marriage. Sooner or later, temptation will arise, either from a partner’s co-worker, another member of the church choir, (this happens a surprising amount) or a neighbor. The drive to have sex is powerful, and it will be satisfied, one way or another. Don’t you want to satisfy your needs with your partner?

Keeping love and sex alive in your relationship is what keeps it active and healthy. A good sex life is like the roots that anchor a tree. To keep that vital energy going (and the sap rising!), you need to continually provide something new and interesting. Seduction can be as simple as causing your partner to ask what you’ve been doing that has you so energized and interested. When you’re enthusiastic, you’re seductive and at your most attractive.

Relationships continue to develop in stages, even after the honeymoon is over.In the development of intimacy, love matures and becomes reality-based. It’s the time where the magic fades; both of you begin to relax and show your innermost, less perfect selves. You’re beginning to get to know each other, warts and all. You may feel vulnerable and awkward. In this stage, you may argue, struggle for power, become irritable and unreasonable. The fear that your lover will not like this more realistic view of you arises. As a result, both partners need and have trouble providing reassurance and personal space. Many relationships don’t make it through this stage, because if the partners don’t understand or expect this change, it can feel like something is terribly wrong.

Here are four simple steps to create a successful marriage – complete with lots of intimacy:

1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, sex, anger, disappointment, your appreciation of each other, the meaning of life… talk about everything.
2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up. Be a team and a partnership. Don’t get stuck on who’s right or wrong. Focus on what will solve the problem.
3. Keep your connection going through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for each other.
4. Have a sense of humor, give the benefit of the doubt and care about each other.

When your relationship lasts for a while, your lovemaking will change. As you get closer, passion no longer grows automatically out of the excitement of the new and unknown. Rather than allowing your energy to subside, you can allow your sex lives to change and grow, deepening as your partnership does. Couples who develop a sexual repertoire which includes a variety of habits, attitudes and options report feeling more satisfaction and freedom to express their love with enough variety that they never get bored. These suggestions will help you create a variety of experiences together.

 

Quickies:
These are ways to enjoy sex when you don’t really have time for a full, leisurely romantic evening: Try oral sex before you leave for work, petting to climax in the car at a drive-in movie, using toys to have orgasms without a lot of foreplay late at night, or taking a nap and having a “quickie” before rushing off to a party.

Sneaky Sex:
This has the added excitement of forbidden fruit: having silent sex behind locked doors while the children are watching TV or sneaking lovemaking in your childhood bedroom while visiting your parents.

Romantic Sex:
This is the full-blown variety: candlelight, dinner, quiet talking, dressing up, perhaps a lovely hotel room or a romantic dinner for two when you have time alone at home. This is especially good for anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, or anytime your relationship needs a boost.

New Couple Sex:
Recreate a scene from your dating days, as closely as possible: the time you met at church and couldn’t wait to get home and make love, the flowers you used to bring home as a surprise, or saying all the silly, wildly-in-love things you would whisper “way back then.”

Make-up Sex:
After you’ve had an argument or a struggle and forgiven each other, lovemaking can be extra tender and memorable.

Comforting Sex:
When one of you is sad or stressed, and the other acts in a way that is caring and soothing, sex can feel comforting and safe. This is a celebration of your long-time bond and how hard you’ve worked to maintain it.

Relaxing Sex:
This is a great activity for a weekend morning when you have no obligations and can laze around, have breakfast in bed, and make love for as long as you want. There’s no pressure, no hurry and no demands on each other.

Reassuring Sex:
This is manifested in affection and intimacy intended to reassure a partner who is temporarily insecure, or designed to reaffirm your mutual love and commitment to each other. It is often accompanied by many verbal declarations of love and explaining again why you are so important to each other.

Fantasy Sex:
Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies you’ve been harboring: nurse and patient, “playing house,” master or dominatrix and slave, stripper and customer, extraterrestrial alien and abductee, famous movie star and adoring fan, your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie… or anything else you can imagine. This is a great time for costumes, masks, toys, outfits, or whatever enhancements you enjoy.

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