4 Things EVERY Man Wants In A Woman, No Question About It


Are you the girl for him?
If you want to win the right man’s heart, you need to know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you, to wanting and needing you on a deeper level. I’m going to take you inside a man’s mind you so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection. And I’m talking about a real man — one who is mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level.
They’re on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level. That’s exactly why you’re on this site: to learn how to find a quality kind of guy, a real man looking for a real relationship.

So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?

1. He Wants A Woman Who Is Playful.

Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action. Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a man’s heart. But men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you say.

It’s not your words that make a man attracted to you; it’s the experiences you create with him. Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong, and even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there. You’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

2. He Wants A Woman Who Is Independent.

Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they’re smarter and more powerful. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Real men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship.

A great guy isn’t intimidated by independence and success. What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him. The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world. Don’t drop your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him.

3. He Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature.

A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her, will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman.

If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him. On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she’s the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him. He’ll see that she can handle things with a cool head rather than become a damsel in distress he has to rescue.

4. He Wants A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To.

Men aren’t as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there’s no passion and attraction. A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.
Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start. There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun. You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable (in a good way).


Teen Dating: 1980 vs. 2015

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Here is a glimpse at dating on the high school circuit in 1980 and how it compares with dating today.

1980: See cute boy in school. Ask your friends his name. Doodle his name. Doodle your name plus his last name. Doodle your names together. Dream about where he lives and what his interests are.

2015: See total hottie in school. Ask your friends his name. Google him at lunch. Have friends search and follow him on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.

1980: Invite friends over after school and look his family up in phonebook. Use your thumb to make a black smudge on the thin paper in the exact spot where his info is. Everyone squeals as you stare at the page.

2015: Compare search results at your house after school. All intel about crush is relayed via group text message. The clicking of the keyboard, whoosh of a sent text and new text notification are the only sounds. No one talks at all.

1980: Pull out yearbook. Methodically flip to every black-and-white photo of him. Memorize everything about him. Stare at his baseball picture. Imagine sitting in the bleachers cheering him on as he lowers his tinted aviator sunglasses to wink at you.

2015: Pull out computer. Scroll through pictures on his Instagram account. Notice that he has posted shots wearing at least three different baseball uniforms. Hope he doesn’t think you are going to 1,000 different dusty fields to watch him. He might not even be all that.

Born in the ’70s? You’re probably in the messy middle.
1980: Pull rotary phone over to couch, find smudged page in phone book and slowly dial. Hang up as soon as someone answers. Thank God they have no way of knowing who it is. Repeat three times before little brother comes into the room to watch Happy Days and ruins everything. As usual.

2015: Type his address into Google Maps. Zoom in and get directions and distance from your house to his house. Take new selfie and upload to all of your social media accounts. I mean, he might be Googling you too.

1980: Next day at school, your friend, who is friends with his friend, asks if your crush has a girlfriend. Hold breath all day for the answer. Try and find his locker location so you can casually hang out while flipping through Tiger Beat.

2015: Next day at school, your friend Snapchatted him mentioning you might think he’s cool. She asks him if he “w2ho” (wants to hang out) with you. He replies, “tell her to HMU” (hit me up). Awesome!

1980: At lunch, your friend says that his friend says that he doesn’t have a girlfriend. Yes! Now it doesn’t matter that Shaun Cassidy isn’t going to kidnap you in his Camaro after all. Scribble your phone number on spiral paper, fold into a small triangle and give to your friend to pass to his friend to pass to him.

2015: At lunch, your friend texts hottie’s contact info to you. Add him as a contact with just a first name. You can’t wait to take a pic of him and add it to his contact profile so his gorgeous face pops up every time he calls.

1980: At home, you wait by the phone for his call. But, your mom stays on the phone forever. You are apoplectic, picturing your hunk getting a busy signal and giving up. You have no way of knowing whether or not he called unless everyone stays off the phone and you never leave the house. Ever.

2015: At home, hottie texts you before his baseball practice and arranges to FaceTime later that night. You get a spray tan, then stop at Chipotle and Starbucks. You have hours to kill until he calls.

1980: He calls during dinner and your dad tells your maybe, hopefully new boyfriend to call back in an hour. You pull the phone into a closet exactly an hour later and jump when it rings. You talk for precisely 10 minutes. You repeatedly establish that you both are “fine” and doing “nothing.” He asks you to go to a movie Friday night.

2015: When it’s almost time for his call, you move around the room picking the ideal FaceTime view. Ahh! The perfect spot. Just you with your photo collages in the background. He needs to know that you have a life too. He asks if you want to hang out on Friday. You agree but don’t make plans because plans are lame.

1980: He was supposed to be there at 7 p.m. You have no way to contact him so you wait. You smooth down your culottes, adjust your poncho and apply more Cherry Lip Smacker. Finally, he pulls up. Your mom embarrasses you by enthusiastically waving from the doorway. You drive away to the sounds of Blondie.

2015: Take pics of four outfits. Text them to your friends and wear the one they pick. Shove $20 inside your phone case and you’re ready. He texts to say he’s on the way. Then texts to say traffic sucks. Finally, he texts to say he’s there. You leave the house promising to text your mom and let her know the plan.

1980: You have no idea whether Caddyshack was a good date movie but you know it was a good date. You guys are perfect together, just like Danny and Sandy in Grease. You can’t wait to tell your friends about it when you go roller skating on Saturday morning.

2015: Your friends are with you on the date. On a trip to the bathroom, you text the few that aren’t. You snap a selfie of you and hottie for Instagram. You look amazing together, just like Brangelina. You can’t wait to go home and track how many favorites the picture gets over the next 24 hours.

And there you have it. Teen dating may have changed over the last few decades but having your friends as wing men has, apparently, survived the times.

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Things That Attract Men’s Attention To Women

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What do males notice first about women? If they have never talked with you and do not know anything about your character, temper and attitude, then you are judged by your looks.

It does look superficial and shallow; however, there is not much we can do to change the situation. Here are 9 things that usually attract men’s attention and considered to be important by most men:

1. Hair
Shiny and healthy hair can also attract men’s attention. The time that you regularly spend at your hairdresser’s is not useless. Healthy hair tells men about your overall health and we always find health attractive and beautiful. Wash your hair and keep it clean, moisturized and nourished. Apply balm or use conditioner to make it soft and fragrant.

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2. Eyes
Women’s eyes are also a powerful weapon that can conquer any man’s attention. Our eyes tell others all about our feelings and thoughts. It is really difficult to hide your true intentions and emotions unless you are wearing sunglasses! It has been proved that more than 70% of all men look in woman’s eyes when they meet her. It is just another myth that men rate your chest or hips. Besides, complimenting woman on her eyes is never offensive. On the contrary, ladies respond to it quite approvingly. However, it is strongly recommended to avoid commenting on other body parts in order not to be wrongly understood.

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3. Smile
A sincere and friendly smile attracts everybody. Men are no exception. A smiling person looks much more approachable and warm. A smile is a signal informing others that you are happy and satisfied with life and yourself. Smile more often if you want to demonstrate happiness and optimism. Do not get surprised if you start hearing more compliments and be sure to meet more people who will want to communicate with you. Smiling people make others smile and feel relaxed hence they usually surrounded by people.

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4. Weight
Tastes differ and it is not really about how many pounds you carry and whether you are overweighted. The point is to carry it the right way and be proud of your own body. If you are self-confident, people can see and feel it. Curves do count and if you want to change your shape, you should go to the gym. There you will tone up your muscles and become even more attractive.

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5. Chest
Most women mistakenly think that it is their chest that attracts men’s attention. However, this is just a stereotype and in reality chest is not number one priority by which men judge about women. Nevertheless, men do include this part of female’s body in their list of things that they notice when they meet a woman. If you are not totally satisfied with the shape of your breasts, then we recommend weight-lifting exercises. Some ladies are ready to do plastic surgery to make their breasts bigger or smaller. This kind of change is too extreme and costs a lot. Actually, there is no need to drastically change your chest, because in most cases appropriately fitted underwear can do the trick.

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6. How genuine are you?
Fake people are avoided by others. Be genuine in what you say and in how you act. This also includes your looks. Hair extensions and false nails or eye lashes is a turn-off for most men. Do not be naive thinking that only you know that you are wearing fake stuff. Men are not stupid and can easily tell what is natural and what is not. Applying make-up is fine. Do not use too much of it though. Nude shades and light colors are always better. They will make you look fresh and youthful. Treat your hair with masks, shampoos and styling hair products of higher quality.

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7. Legs
You are probably not surprised at all to hear that men like beautiful legs. Men notice shapely legs, toned calves and groomed feet with nice pedicure. In summer your legs should look absolutely impeccable. If you know your legs look good, wear skirts and shorts. Scientists say that the reason why males like slim long legs and shapely hips is that this is a signal that the lady is fertile and feminine. Men also pay attention to women’s knees. Take care of your legs and feet, do massages and apply anti-cellulite gels or creams to make your legs look their best.

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8. Skin
Skin cover you from head to food. It is the largest organ that tells it all about your health! Does your skin look its best? Are you completely satisfied with it or is there something you would like to improve and change? Take proper care of your skin. Men find healthy complexion extremely attractive.

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9. The witty woman

Yes, you can get a man interest with just looks and sex. But keeping him interested for more than three weeks takes intelligence. Men like witty, educated girls who can keep the conversation alive and have something interesting to say. Women who can finish a sentence that isn’t about shoes, tanning, him or Kim Kardashian’s ass.
They like you to be more creative in talking than “What did you do today”, “I called you and you didn’t answer”, “how can you like football” and “you care more about your friends than you do about me.”

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Cuddling With Your Partner Does Something Very Surprising to Your Health


If you can’t get close enough to your significant other (or non-significant other), scientific studies have your back, quite literally. As it turns out, cuddling might as well be a miracle drug.

Most of us already know that cuddling with someone, be it our pets, best friends, partners or kids, makes us feel cozy, safe and warm. It’s what we want to do when it’s drafty in our apartments, or when The Walking Dead is on and we can’t handle watching zombies take big sloppy bites out of humans alone, or when we’re just bummed out and need a soft surface to lay our heads.

But could snuggling be scientifically proven to be healthy? Thank goodness — the answer is yes. Here are five reasons why:

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1. Cuddling makes us happier.
When you’re physically close to someone, you tend to feel happier and healthier. According to Women’s Health Magazine, “touching someone releases [dopamine and serotonin], both of which can boost your mood and curb depression.”

Furthermore, when a person is physically close to someone, his or her body releases oxytocin, another “happy chemical” that contributes to us cultivating and maintaining intimate, healthy relationships. According to Paul Zak, an expert on the beloved hormone and self-proclaimed “Dr. Love,” oxytocin is the “moral molecule behind all human virtue, trust, affection and love, a ‘social glue’ that keeps society together.” A hand hold, a snuggle, a hug — all of these actions supposedly increase levels of oxytocin.

Oxytocin isn’t necessarily a miracle molecule, of course. Jennifer Bartz from the Mount Sinai School of Medicine, for example, discovered that the effects of oxytocin really depend on an individual’s personality and perspective, according to Slate. But several studies have pointed to the molecule’s ability to promote “feelings of devotion, trust and bonding” between people, giving oxytocin its title of “the bonding hormone.”

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2. Cuddling can strengthen our immune systems.
Intimacy is healthy. The human touch has been shown to drop a person’s levels of cortisol, the main biological culprit of stress. As Roberta Lee of Beth Israel Medical Center in New York explains, “Cortisol suppresses the immune response. Anything that increases the relaxation response triggers the restoration of your immune response.”

The result: Your body is more able to fight off viruses and inflammation, making you happier and healthier.

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3. Cuddling makes us less anxious.
Not only does close proximity to other humans make you feel happier, it can also decrease your worries and anxiety. When you touch someone, the skin-on-skin contact signals your adrenal glands to cease excessive amounts of cortisol production, the aforementioned stress hormone.

“Having this friendly touch, just somebody simply touching our arm and holding it, buffers the physiological consequences of this stressful response,” Matt Hertenstein of DePauw University told NPR.

James Coan, an assistant professor at the University of Virginia, conducted a study that illustrated the helpfulness of the human touch, specifically hand holding. While administering MRIs, he warned 16 married women that they might “experience shock.” Each woman’s state of anxiety was instantly illuminated in the MRI scans. But when these women held each other’s hands for comfort, their elevated stress response subsided. When their husbands held their hands, the ladies grew even more relaxed.

“There was a qualitative shift in the number of regions in the brain that just weren’t reacting anymore to the threat cue, Coan told CNN. As Coan and his colleagues noted in their paper on the study, marital hand-holding influenced the neural activation in the hypothalamus, which in turn influences the release of cortisol.

4. Cuddling could help us sleep better.
Oxytocin does more than help us bond and potentially increase happiness. Since increased levels of oxytocin help you relax and reduce high blood pressure, it could also be connected with better sleep alongside your partner, Rachel E. Salas of the Johns Hopkins Center for Sleep suggested.

Moreover, studies have found “suggestive evidence that couples’ emotional closeness and physical intimacy during the daytime and prior to bedtime may promote sleep,” which we’d presume makes each bed partner happier — read: less grumpy — the next day. So get your eight hours with your significant other or another warm body by your side.

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5. Cuddling goes hand-in-hand with closer relationships.
Studies have shown that couples that regularly cuddle and snuggle in bed are most likely in healthier relationships.

“One of the most important differences involved touching. Ninety-four percent of couples who spent the night in contact with one another were happy with their relationship, compared to just 68% of those that didn’t touch,” Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire in England told the Telegraph. While 68% isn’t the lowest number in the world, 94% would seem to reflect positively on the effectiveness of cuddling and touching at night.

Moreover, couples who used to be more physically affectionate but have since cut back on cuddling could potentially be in bad shape. According to Wiseman, “If you have a couple who used to sleep close together but are now drifting further apart in bed, then that could [be] symptomatic of them growing apart when they are awake.”

The bottom line? Cuddling is definitively excellent. So if you want to spend the evening cuddled up on the couch with the closest person you can find, you should. Because science says so, and you would be doing your body some good.

A Tribute to Mothers of Special Children


It is very awkward to interview the feeling of a Mother with a special child.
This mother whom I approached is a strong believer of her Faith, and holds this verse;
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11)
“God has a plan,” my friend told me. “God has a plan and I will trust Him.”

God has given me the privilege of being friends with special women who have faith and compassion like few others. They are mothers of special children — handicapped children.

  • One has an autistic child.
  • The second contracted measles when she was pregnant, and her daughter was born with cerebral palsy.
  • The third has a child who has been in a wheelchair most of her life.

These women will no doubt receive greater rewards in heaven because of the sacrifices they have made through the years. They have to be more patient and committed to deeper love and perseverance than many other moms (although being a mom is always a challenge and privilege).

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These moms have seen their children taunted and treated badly. They have also had to make difficult decisions about where their children will best be able to develop the resources they have been given and become as self-sufficient as possible. If they choose a group home, they must ask themselves, ”Will the caretakers be kind to the children or abuse them?

“God has a plan! I will trust Him,” my friend told me. She was so happy. God has a plan!

I encourage you to make an effort to give an encouragement card to the mom in your life who has been given a special child from God.

Happy Mother’s Day!!